I once read that "belonging" and "fitting in" are not the same. They are, in fact, closer to opposites. Fitting in is about changing yourself for others, while belonging is about being accepted for your unique self. Adler definitely believed that people need to belong.
On a soon-to-be-related note, I was recently having a conversation about self-acceptance, how one of life's struggles is accepting your own unique self (and struggles).This inspired me to wonder if self-acceptance invites acceptance from others. Does it help others feel accepted? Do you find it to be true that people who seem to be content with who they are invite others to feel belonging? Are these two things related at all? Do we ever even know how others feel about themselves? Is accepting oneself a prerequisite for accepting others?
Let me know your thoughts about self-acceptance and belonging!