I think I agree and, in fact, can think of personal examples where this has been true. Don't tell me what to do! I have to be the captain of my own ship. As one parent in a recent class reported hearing from her husband when she tried to "boss" him around, "Get your own army."
How does this relate to raising children? Think about all those times your child has said "no" to you. Think about the child who will refuse to eat or "go potty," just because you suggested they were hungry or doing the "potty dance." How can you get what you want and still have the child be the one in charge? Give a choice or ask a question.
The need for autonomy isn't just psychological; there is a somatic reaction we experience when we are told what to do. The "wall" comes up, and resistance is the natural response. Think about the supreme importance of autonomy in the next few days. See what you notice about yourself and others. Look for ways to help others feel empowered. It will help you, too.